Don’t let people’s opinions discourage you from continuing your interests. They mean nothing when you are doing what you enjoy. You should do something because you want to. Nothing is worse than looking back and wondering why you stopped doing what you were doing because one person made a comment that you didn’t agree with. What matters is that you are happy with it. And if you are really great at it, other people will notice the heart you put into your work, too.
I read this article that really made me feel fortunate of where I stand as of today and if you are like me who is also in their early twenties and “starting out”, I recommend giving this a read too: Why Developing Serious Relationships in Your 20’s Matters
We are told that right now is not the time to worry about settling down, having children, or getting married. Yet, that does not mean to completely put it off to the point where you find yourself turning 32 years old and without a clue on how to handle a serious relationship. This made me think how everything truly happens for a reason. I have personally been dealt a really good set of cards and I am so thankful for that. Sometimes I dwell on the fact that I feel like I was robbed from my youth. I was in a long term relationship from five years and when I look back, sometimes I wish that I had focused on myself when I was eighteen, nineteen, and twenty. But then I know that if that were the case, right this moment I would be wondering what it would be like to have a relationship. It is one of those cases where you always want what you don’t have and when I realize that, I understand that the circumstances in my life have happened in the exact order as they should. I was meant to be exactly where I am right now.
Here I am… A twenty two and a half year old who has graduated college, with a legitimate job, and very content. My youth is not over. I feel like this is destiny working its magic and its way and I have no control over that. I am grateful and glad that I know what it is like to go through a serious relationship because I am now experienced for the future and am able to handle situations and hardships better. I am a young adult now who is able to be curious and explore, and even make mistakes along the way. As the article says, “Changing the world is a full-time job and if you don’t do it now, when will you?”
Just today I was wondering about how I really want to focus on issues that are important to me and how I need to look into a reputable organization where I can volunteer. Now that I am feeling much more stable with a job and feeling like I have a lot of free time on my days off, (days off just feel weird to me and I enjoy being productive with my time) I feel that I can sincerely give back to the less fortunate who need help.
Time is not infinite and neither is my youth. I need to enjoy every day to the fullest. I know that as time passes and I’m not getting any younger. Eventually, I will go through another chapter in my life where I will feel ready for a serious relationship again. Soon, this phase will blow over and I will be wanting something new again. I don’t know when that will be, but I know it will hit me when it does. Therefore, I know that I need to make the best of my time now and do as much as possible. Isn’t that crazy to think about? How we find ourselves wanting something that we previously didn’t. I find that so fascinating and I think if we become aware of change and accept that it will happen when it does, that we can coast along with it so that when it happens, it won’t be unsettling.
I always remind myself that everything happens for a reason. I believe in destiny. I truly believe that there is a hidden bigger power that controls the future someway, somehow. That as long as I work hard, be kind, be nice, give back, and be a good citizen, and if I follow my dreams, all will fall into place.
“Don’t you say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” - H. Jackson Brown, American author.
Some of us may be restricted in terms of our living conditions, yes, some of us have school to attend, children to look after, or need to balance two or three jobs just to make ends meet, but regardless of these circumstances, you are not limited to apply just as much hard work into your dreams and goals.
Adjusting from a customer service job to working in promotions has helped me recognize how our time is only measured by how we choose to spend it. The way my mentality works now when breaking down “time” has changed and it has helped me manage it more wisely. I have naturally had a very linear way of thinking, in the sense that, I measured my productivity based on how my managers or college professors chose to measure it. Being assigned an eight page paper and completing exactly eight pages meant that I did what I had to, right? But, then you get that paper back and see you received a “C”. Yet, getting this grade didn’t change the amount of time you spent on that essay. It is a busy day at work and you have a long line of customers to help but no matter how fast you move to help each guest, you are still off at the same exact time you are scheduled until.
Luckily, there is no scheduled timeline that you are required to follow when it comes to pursuing your goals. All you have is now and you are completely capable of beginning at any moment. The quicker to begin, the better. I have friends that say, “I’m already 23, it’s too late to start college now, I’ll be 27-28 by the time I graduate”. Don’t let that stop you. So you will be in your late twenties with a college education that you will have for a lifetime. That is all that matters.
You have enough time to accomplish what you want and it is never too late. You have just as much chances as everyone else. It isn’t easy for everyone and it may take some people an extra ten steps to be at the same level as others that have it easier but ultimately you can reach the very same level as them except you have an advantage because those ten extra steps have taught you that diligence pays off and that perseverance can and will take you places. It may not pay off monetarily, but it can be valued with an exchange of good karma in your life. I personally feel that if you do things with kindness and with a good heart, serendipity will follow and that will take you farther than any money amount can. Most importantly, never expect or assume that you are owed more of something because it was more difficult for you to get there.